Clergy and RE

There is a death in the school of a Christian child. How will you respond?

It will obviously be appropriate to talk about Christian beliefs about death and resurrection. Bear in mind that

a. there may be children from other faith groups present;
b. even practising Christian children may find some of the vocabulary and concepts difficult to grasp so avoid using 'technical' theological language where possible.
Is the child from your congregation? It might be possible to hold a memorial service in church as well as whatever is done in school, and to invite pupils and teachers to attend.
Talk with the Head about any further counselling needs, either from yourself or other agencies.
Make it clear that you are available if any of the staff wish to talk, but bear in mind that the Head is likely to be their first reference point, especially in primary schools.
Recommend some further reading for staff (see 'Resources').

When Someone Dies - Teachers' Book

Steffes, D
1997, Cruse ISBN 0 900 32110 5

A very practical guide for teachers. See also student book.

Children and Bereavement

Duffy, W
1997, National Society/ Church House Publishing ISBN 0 715 14846 X

A sensitive and thoughtful guide to the reactions of children and teenagers to death of all kinds, including suicide and sudden death.

Death and Loss

Leaman, O
1995, Cassell ISBN 0 304 33089 2

Compassionate approaches in the classroom.

When Someone Dies - Students' Book

Steffes, D
1997, Cruse ISBN 0 900 32111 3

Waterbugs and Dragonflies

Stickney, D
1989, Mowbray ISBN 0 264 66904 5

This book is written from the Christian point of view with additional material e.g. prayers and Bible quotations.

The Very Best of Friends

Wild, M
1990, Bodley Head ISBN 0 370 31435 2

A memorable story about Jessie whose life is turned upside down but who gains an unexpected friend. Wonderful illustrations.

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